Anthony Weiner is in the news again. Not to promote his candidacy to be mayor of New York City, but to put out a fire that could derail his opportunity to become mayor. Anthony Weiner is involved in another $exting scandal and has betrayed his wife again. We may never know all the details or understand why he did what he did. What we do know is that he said he is sorry and his wife said she forgives him. They also admitted that they went through a lot of therapy to work through their marital problems. At the end of the day, they will have to figure out what’s best for their marriage. Click here to watch my interview on CBS3 on the Anthony Weiner $exting Scandal and Overcoming Betrayal.
Many people ask me, is $exting cheating? What do you think?
Some people think that it is okay to send $exual pictures and have $exual conversations via text with someone other than their partner. The truth is for most couples this is a violation of trust, a betrayal and a form of cheating. Even if you haven’t had $ex with the person you are texting, you are crossing the lines of your relationship. Loss of trust, betrayal and cheating can ruin your relationship. Some couples never come back from the impact of a cheating partner. At the same time, I work with many couples that find a way to work through the hurt and pain to keep their relationship.
Would you forgive your partner if he or she cheated on you?
Many people say they would never forgive their partner if he or she cheated. They would kick him or her out of house and end the relationship. But when it happens, the decision is not that easy. It is a difficult decision and should not be taken lightly or ignored. I see too many couples try to move on and act as if it didn’t happen. That’s one of the worst things you can do. Acting as if it didn’t happen can create more tension and conflict for your relationship.
George Talks Recommendations:
• One of the best things you can do is seek help (hopefully from a trained therapist or trained faith leader).
• For the person who cheated, ask for forgiveness, be honest about everything, be patient with the process and do right by your partner.
• For the person who is betrayed, you will be angry, sad, and feel many emotions, but work towards forgiveness if you want to keep the relationship.
At the end of the process, I have seen couples develop a stronger relationship than the one they had before the betrayal when they put in the work.
George James is a Licensed Couple & Family Therapist
and CEO of George Talks, LLC,
Where Your Relationships Matter.