Many people think that a relationship is destroyed in one big, devastating blow, like one partner finding out that the other was cheating or maybe an argument hat escalates to physical violence. While both cheating and violence are certainly deal-breakers for most people, there are other ways that couples slowly erode their relationships.
In the beginning of a relationship, most people find it easy to do the things that build and strengthen the relationship, but as times goes on, many people start to do less and lees of what it takes to keep the relationship healthy and sustainable.
Below, Laura Schwecherl shares (womenshealthmag.com) the habits that many couples don’t realize are slowly eroding their relationships:
1. Trying to improve him/her. News flash: There’s no such thing as a perfect person, so don’t expect unrealistic changes. Reminding him or her to make the bed is one thing, but trying to radically change shyness or anxiety is another — and could be ignoring the underlying causes for those issues in the first place.
2. Finding faults with the fam. The parents may be harder to handle than your significant other. But even if there’s some clashing of heads, don’t focus on the family’s faults. Getting criticism from family members can make people feel depressed and hostile — which means some tense holiday dinners. Besides, the situation can’t be worse than what Gaylord went through in Meet the Parents.
3. Engaging in constant PDA. Getting it on in public can not only make bystanders uncomfortable, it may also compensate for a lack of real communication. Stick to hand-holding and quick kisses, and save the rest for the bedroom (or the cell phone?).
4. Fighting in public. As if PDA weren’t bad enough. Arguing in public can embarrass the couple and make everyone around feel awkward, too. Talk it out in private, please.
5. Avoiding fighting. Love isn’t all good, all the time. Disagreements are bound to happen, and arguments can be a healthy part of a relationship. Never having conflict may make compromise impossible. Just don’t make fighting an all-day affair.