Okay, I know the title may not make any sense to you right now, but read on for my explanation.
I think I’m one of the realest persons I know…lol, but I think I could get a few people to agree with me. That being said, if you know me, you know that I don’t put on any fronts and I keep it 100%, to the point that it will definitely show on my face. So being a professional poker player would not bring in the coins to accommodate my living.
I think that you should be who you are and not pretend to be someone else, especially when you only want something from someone. Unfortunately, I think I’m the only one who thinks that way, because mostly everyone I know can talk about someone saying they can’t stand them or how they get on their nerves and two minutes later are up in their face and hugging them. How do you do that? I can’t do that.
Same goes if someone has done me dirty, I mean extremely dirty. I know people who can forget it like it never happened, still talk about that person behind their back mind you, and go on vacation with that person. Am I wrong? Should I develop a thinner skin and forgive the person who has wronged me or be all loving with the person I detest?
I know as Christians you are supposed to turn the other cheek, but how many times should you do it and why should you keep being the punching bag for someone who obviously doesn’t care about you?
Don’t get me wrong, I can forgive and even sometimes warm up to the individual who has cut me to the core, but only with a lot of time and prayer. I’m not perfect and I don’t claim to be. The only thing I claim is being real, which is why it baffles me when people are so two-faced; and even more so with women, because I know how devious some women can be. So are they doing the opposite of what the person expects because they are plotting their revenge? Or are they genuinely a forgiving person and let the past be in the past?
I believe in letting the past stay in the past, because you surely can’t grow if you are holding onto something that hurt you so bad; but for me it doesn’t happen overnight like it seems to do with everyone else, well mostly everyone else I know.
I’ll admit there are times I envy those individual’s ability to adapt and bounce back so quickly after being done so tremendously wrong. Sometimes I wish I had that ability, but then I look at the situation again and think to myself…nah, not yet, I need more time and like being real…lol.
How do you deal with people after they have hurt you? Let us know in the comment section…
Lorie Hardy is the author of “There Are No Good Men Because There Are No Good Women”. She has a passion to empower women and children in all aspects of life. She is a weekly guest on the “Straight Talk” Internet show. She is a writer and director. Visit Lorie at www.facebook.com/empowerment4life, www.empowerment4life.com, or on twitter @empowermnt4life