How open in bed is your guy about bringing toys into the mix? Some men are hesitant about it because they feel like you are saying that you need it because that is the only way you are going to be able to hit the big O. Some men have no idea what to do with them. Here are some tips to help guide your man into loving toys in bed:
1. You need to start out small. Don’t just jump right in with the biggest and craziest toy that you have. Start with a small vibrat0r and work your way up from there. Let him take control and use it on your so that he can feel like he is still in charge.
2. If you don’t want to jump right in with the toys that are more for you, you can get some novelty items that you can both enjoy. Try getting some handcuffs, edible underwear, or maybe even a special lubricant. This will introduce new things into the bedroom and make the both of you more open to trying new things every now and then.
3. Have a conversation. If you want to spice things up a little, let him know. Talk about what you want to bring in and see how he feels about it. If you are open and honest beforehand, it doesn’t come as such a surprise.
4. If he is okay with it, go to a store together and do a little shopping. This can be exciting and can build some anticipation when you see all of the different things that can be used. If he is not comfortable going into a store, go online!
5. Make him forget that you are holding a vibrat0r. Make the toy a part of a fantasy role play. He will soon forget all about it and have fun with it. Show him how you use it normally and he will jump right in.
6. Make it fun. Don’t make this a serious thing. You can laugh. If things get awkward, break the tension somehow.