On the wedding day, everybody is happy and everyone is optimistic about the future. No one gets married with the full intention of getting a divorce. Everyone wants to believe that their future is bright and that their marriage will work.
The sad reality is that, even with the best of intentions, half of the happy wedding couples will eventually end up back at the court house, only the second time around it will not be for a marriage license; it will be for a divorce.
It may be hard to face the fact that you now have a new reality to face and as hard as it may be, you still have to move forward. Jada Pinkett Smith shared some words of encouragement and motivation for anyone who may be struggling after divorce:
“Letter to a friend:
You are divorced. Your ex-husband is not being kind or considerate, but you can’t harp on it because it steals the energy that should be given to your potential and power. At the end of the day, your survival is at risk, and you complaining about what he is not doing and what he should be doing does not change your circumstances. We have to use these circumstances to analyze what we need to do different, how do we need to strengthen, and how we need to be more. You are strong and capable, and now you have been put in a position where you must use your capabilities to change your circumstances without your ex’s help or kindness.
In the ideal world, the circumstances in which you and your children are facing are unacceptable, but the most painful realization I have had about this life is that we are not entitled to anyone’s kindness or consideration. THAT, is a painful truth.
Stay focused and keep it moving.