Why the Modern Woman Is Always Exhausted and Can’t Relax


downloadBy: Krystle Crossman

It seems that more and more these days women are on the go and working 24/7. Some are always in the office, others bring the office home with them. Relaxation and vacation is a foreign concept and even if they do take a vacation they make sure that they are still able to check emails from work or even bring their work laptops with them! They may be called workaholics by their peers, but most say that is just how they function.

A survey done by Women’s Health and The Doctors found that 63% of women said that they very rarely make daily downtime a priority. They feel that if they are not working, they are not being productive with their time. They also found that women spend far less time on R&R than men do, and in fact 91% of women today blow off the concept of relaxation altogether.

This restlessness could be due to the fact that women are far more ambitious these days because there are more opportunities for them in the workforce. They know that there are dream jobs out there and they are determined to work hard to get them. Many women have the “having it all” concept in mind and try to make that a reality which doesn’t leave much time for rest. Some women are fighting just to keep their jobs or gain an edge over their co-workers because the job market is not as stable and most would like it to be. They feel that if they have time to relax, they have time to do work instead to help them get ahead of the game. 55% of women in fact feel guilty if they take time out to relax!

This need to work all the time is also an avoidance technique for some women. They have something bothering them but feel that if they take time to stop and relax they are going to have to face that issue head on.



  1. REALLY? They don’t need a man, remember? Single mothers don’t complain, only those who say they don’t need a man and looking for gold stars complain; like its some sort of HONOR to intentionally be a single mother. basically seeking out a sperm donor and his family solely who never discussed with a potential baby mama about having children…then hating him after you intentionally got pregnant..

  2. Advise: We as women better start carving out some R&R…most of the men that I know make sure that their lives have some chunks of R&R..while we are running around trying to hold everything together..take care of YOU also..

  3. Sorry no sympathy for out of wedlock mothers, they CHOSE that for themselves. Yall settled for that mess. Black women fond of saying “I don’t need no man to help me raise my kids”, but turn around and whine about how tired they are, when they CHOSE to lay up with dudes that didn’t want nothing but cooch and dumped them when they found some new cooch. So ladies you made your bed now lay in it. Should have secured a good black man who would have made a good husband and father. So deal with being tired. *shrug* NO WAY I’m settling for being an out of wedlock mother. NO BABIES till I’m MARRIED.

  4. The reason why women are so tired and blah blah is because they are not fulfilling their role according to scripture and men are not either. Men are suppose to work and provide for their families period and I am not talking about KEYKEY that hangs on the corner. Women are suppose to raise the children, cook, clean, you know the deal. The fact that this is not happening anymore you get this mess. The guys complain oh she is a gold digger when in fact it is the duty of the men to take care of his family, even if they do not get along.
    So now the women feel some type of way so to prove they are not gold diggers they go get their own money. The problem with that is she can not fulfill her responsibilities at home. Now the men are mad because their egos are bruised and they feel like they are not worth nothing because the women can financially provide. That brings strife within any marriage. Men get mad because they know it is their duty to take care of their families Men don’t get mad you forced the women out on to the work force now she ruling over you. Isaiah 3:12 As for my people, children are their oppressors , and women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err , and destroy the way of thy paths. The reason being is because men are suppose to be the head of household. There is no way around it that was Adam’s curse Gen 3:19 In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground; for out of it wast thou taken: for dust thou art, and unto dust shalt thou return. 1 Timothy 5:8 But if any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith and is worse than an infidel.
    Bottom line things will get back in order when both sexes get back to their positions according to scripture. This is why women running around talking about they do not need a man because they got money that is madness. FYI it does get lonely in that big house, and your sons need their fathers regardless if you do not get along with him. So many young men are effeminate because there are no fathers around.

    • Disagree. Black women can and SHOULD have careers or jobs they love. The problem is lack of two parent households. Black women keep having babies by men that don’t commit and get stuck carrying the load alone. Married couples where both work SHARE the load which makes it easier on both. Bump that biblical mess, in this economy it takes a husband AND a wife working and running a household. Black men are the first in line to lose their jobs because of the economy, so what happens when he has a wife sitting at home, if he loses his job? You’re gonna have TWO JOBLESS mofos sitting on the couch looking silly, with mouths to feed and no income coming in. And please don’t tell me god will make a way, ’cause with brothas and sistas losing their jobs, looking or other jobs and can’t find one, don’t seem like god is making a way for them. No disrespect to you, but Black people been looking to god since slavery, jim crow the civil rights movement, now we got racist as mofos shooting and killing us, cops killing us, we killing each other, we’re morally corrupt and the black community is falling apart at the seams, what’s god doing about that?

  5. Jonathan E. Hines on

    Woe’men and wickedness in the African Disspora in America…that brings daily anger and woe from GOD…! Preacher…, is there a scripture 4 dat?
    the plantation seer

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